No thank you, I'll pass...

I’m not a roaring feminist nor am I in the business of bashing males. In this post I’m not nagging, just sharing a conglomerate of pet peeves with people with penises. We’ll call it vaginal venting for now. Don’t worry men, the ladies will get a similar post when I can be honest enough with myself to admit that I will fall into all of the categories I list. Listing my pet peeves will restrict me a little bit and I don’t want to go off in a tangent so numbered list in 5, 4, 3, 2…

1. Being nosy- My issue with this trait is simply that it is the arch nemeses of most of my traits (courtesy of only child syndrome). I like my privacy but have no problem letting you in. It just has to be on my terms. Call it selfish or even anal retentive for all you Freudians. Whatever, I don’t mind. I also like giving people the liberty to invite me to information about them. Feeling entitled to info and taking away that liberty just makes it seem as if you don’t trust them or think they’re incapable of sharing themselves with you. Where’s the fun or security in stumbling across things about someone? I feel if they want you to know they’ll tell you and if it’s something that could potentially cause a problem you’ll find out in due time. Faults tell on themselves, you don’t have to look for them. With that being said, mind your business. I’m a little more lenient with this in women only because most of the women I know are nosy so it is no shock to me. Nosy men are a new-age invention. I don’t remember growing up with or around any of those. Maybe they were undercover or evolved into nosy men as a result of life experience. All I know is it’s not attractive. Stop it.  


2. Overly emotional- According to you [men], isn’t that our job? Why would you feel the need to be the very thing that supposedly makes us so complex? Do me a favor and be simple, I like you that way. Balance it out, don’t make it more weighted on one end. That’s how domestic disputes start and I don’t have time to get into it with you. Slapbox, no…Xbox, yes. We can virtually fight and take it out on the controller. Okay?


3. (last but not least) Abandoning issues at hand- Not to be confused with abandonment issues, although they are not too far off. That’s a whole different blog. If I ask you a question, answer it. It doesn’t even have to be an extra intelligent, grandiose answer just acknowledge it. You know what the most awesome response is when you feel cornered and don’t want to say something to spark even more mess? “Tell you what, I need some time to think about it so I can give you the best answer from all possible outcomes.” Someone said it to me and it blew my mind. In that response, you acknowledged my feelings and took on the task to delve into those feelings to see it from my point of view. I’d be too flattered to carry on in disagreement. I’d be baffled, probably still a little rattled but I’d have to respect it. No matter what you do PLEASE don’t abruptly end the conversation. You just pressed pause on that emotion only for it to be played later, it doesn’t help anything. You might as well address it now so it won’t come back seven times stronger later. Issues like to play peek-a-boo. They go away for a little while, sometimes long enough for you to really think they’re gone for good. Then they do a swift roundhouse Chuck Norris kick to your face! Not really but they do love to resurface and do it with reckless abandon. So tip your hat to your issues, let them know you know they are there…or something.